Within the thirty fourth episode of The One % Present, I talked with Leander Paes, the Indian tennis legend extensively considered one of many biggest doubles gamers in tennis historical past. We explored Leander’s exceptional journey over 4 many years to develop into a tennis legend, his philosophy on onerous work, endurance, and coping with losses and failures, and his recommendation to the younger era on taking part in the lengthy sport, in tennis and life.

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At one occasion throughout our dialog, Leander stated one thing actually lovely –

It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to really feel lonely. It’s okay to be unhappy. It’s okay to really feel that you’re upset in your self or in another person. It’s okay. However what’s essential is the short restoration time. You’ll be able to’t dwell on that. Cry your tears, really feel upset, really feel your highs and your lows, and transfer on fast.

That restoration time between the precise act of dropping and the precise act of successful, and shifting to what the subsequent activity is, the shorter that interval, the extra profitable you’ll be.

That is such highly effective recommendation from Leander – that of a “fast restoration time.” It’s like emotional elasticity, the power to stretch with life’s challenges after which snap again into form.

Additionally, he doesn’t advise us to suppress our emotions however to expertise them absolutely after which transfer ahead with intention.

Leander echoed Charlie Munger’s philosophy, who as soon as stated –

Typically talking, envy, resentment, revenge, and self-pity are disastrous modes of thought…Life can have horrible blows, horrible blows, unfair blows, it doesn’t matter. Some folks recuperate and others don’t. There I believe the angle of Epictetus is the most effective. He thought that each mischance in life was a chance to behave properly. Each mischance in life was a chance to study one thing and that your responsibility was to not be immersed in self-pity, however to make the most of the horrible blow in a constructive trend. That could be a excellent concept.

Give it some thought for a second – how typically can we get caught in a loop of adverse feelings, replaying disappointments or failures? Leander suggests a unique method. Really feel it, embrace it, then let it go.

Now, this isn’t as straightforward because it sounds as a result of it requires observe, endurance, and self-compassion. But when we will grasp this steadiness between honouring our feelings and dealing on our resilience to have the ability to bounce again from our setbacks with renewed focus, we will transfer via life with grace and energy.

Because the American professor and mindfulness trainer John Kabat-Zinn stated –

You’ll be able to’t cease the waves, however you may study to surf.

The subsequent time you’re hit by a wave of emotion, keep in mind Leander’s and Charlie’s recommendation – don’t keep away from the wave, however surf it. You’ll be nice.

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This can be a masterpiece.

– Morgan Housel, Writer, The Psychology of Cash

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Classes From a Thinker President

The New York Occasions carries an interview with José Mujica, the previous President of Uruguay (2010-2015). Within the interview, Mujica shared a number of unbelievable classes on life and dwelling, together with this –

You’re free whenever you escape the legislation of necessity — whenever you spend the time of your life on what you want. In case your wants multiply, you spend your life overlaying these wants.

People can create infinite wants. The market dominates us, and it robs us of our lives.

Humanity must work much less, have extra free time and be extra grounded. Why a lot rubbish? Why do you need to change your automobile? Change the fridge?

There is just one life and it ends. It’s important to give that means to it. Battle for happiness, not only for wealth.

And this –

…life is gorgeous. With all its ups and downs, I like life. And I’m dropping it as a result of it’s my time to depart. What that means can we give to life? Man, in comparison with different animals, has the power to discover a goal.

Or not. In the event you don’t discover it, the market can have you paying payments the remainder of your life.

In the event you discover it, you’ll have one thing to reside for. Those that examine, those that play music, those that love sports activities, something. One thing that fills your life.

I’ve by no means heard of Mujica, however now I lengthy to discover him.

Notes to Myself

What does success actually imply to me? I ought to take into consideration this. Perhaps it’s totally different from what I’ve been chasing. Price exploring. It may very well be about private progress, relationships, or making a distinction. I must outline it for myself, not let others or society dictate it. Which may change how I spend my time and vitality.

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Subsequent time one thing feels onerous or uncomfortable, I’ll strive to not keep away from it. It may very well be an opportunity to develop. I’d shock myself. Discomfort typically indicators that I’m pushing my boundaries. However that’s the place actual progress occurs. Even when I fail, I’ll study one thing precious. And the long run me might thank the current me for that.

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I must focus extra on my relationships. Spend actual time with folks, and have significant talks. These moments persist with me greater than stuff I purchase. High quality over amount all the time wins in friendships. I should be there for others, and allow them to be there for me. I must share my fears, desires, and laughter. These connections give life richness and help throughout robust instances. I must put money into them like I might in another essential a part of life.

Guide Suggestion

Like all of his books, I like Ruskin Bond’s A Guide of Easy Dwelling for the essence it captures of quiet moments, the attraction of nature, and the enjoyment discovered within the mundane.

What evokes me most about this guide is its capacity to distil knowledge from on a regular basis experiences, with a name to decelerate and recognize the little issues that usually go unnoticed.

Bond’s writing displays a deep reference to nature and a life lived in concord with it. His observations are easy but deep, and supply solace and a way of peace within the chaos of the world.

One of many passages that resonates deeply with me is –

I believe Tolstoy summed all of it up when he stated: “One ought solely to jot down when one leaves a chunk of 1’s flesh within the ink-pot every time one dips one’s pen.”

To which I’d humbly add: There’s something to be stated for ink-pots. And the hand that holds the pen. It should be far tougher to share one’s physique and soul with a typewriter or pc. I deserted the typewriter way back. There’s something sensual, bodily, intimate about writing by hand. It takes me again to my childhood, after I was first studying to jot down letters and be a part of them collectively. After I had any problem, my father would put his hand on mine and information it alongside the web page.

His hand remains to be there. I really feel it now, at the same time as I write.

And will loving, long-gone fingers contact yours, pricey reader.

We’re not alone.

When you have not learn it but, give A Guide of Easy Dwelling a strive.

Quotes I’m Reflecting On

The aim of life is to not be completely happy. It’s to be helpful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some distinction that you’ve got lived and lived properly.

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

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To reside is the rarest factor on the earth. Most individuals exist, that’s all.

– Oscar Wilde

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The best glory in dwelling lies not in by no means falling, however in rising each time we fall.

– Nelson Mandela

That’s all from me for in the present day.

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